..I long for the day in which we can enjoy runway shoes without being shown young Women forced into emaciation, when ladies don’t feel they need to starve themselves in to a 7 year old frame to be deemed beautiful enough; because until then I can’t appreciate the artwork of fashion whilst being heartbroken by having to watch someone waste away, paraded whilst she’s slowly dying. That is my fault with the fashion industry and I want to see a change.
I have bought these skeleton tights on ebay to go with some Gothic Lolita or creepy cute outfit. I totally love how my legs look in tights and they are obviously needed during winter if you want to wear a skirt!
The reason I am submitting though, is that people have been bothering me about the size of my thighs. I have received lots of hate when wearing short skirts, so I just kept hiding them in sweatpants… I have also had several periods in my life where I compulsively worked-out and starved myself to make sure to fit into the beauty standards.
My own mother has even asked me ‘Shouldn’t you get breast implants? because your chest looks ridiculous with a butt like that.’ What if I don’t WANT them, I am already super happy to actually have breasts, (as a trans* person ;) ) why do people still bring me down like this?!
I don’t want to hide anymore, I am not less of a human because I have more fat on my thighs than I have on my chest… I don’t need a ‘thigh gap’ to be happy or beautiful. Neither does any other person. A few extra pounds can actually be better and healthier and I just wish people saw that.
Ever have one of those days when you’re unsure how much phobia, hatred and all the bullshit society throws towards us that you can handle?
If I see one more Special K advert telling me I need to weight x amount to have self worth, I’m going to break my fucking television. Thank you for making my day 5x harder.
If I see one more poster of some airbrushed model who prefers to stand for nothing but an unattainable level of perfection to an audience of young, impressionable Women; I’m going to rip it off the wall and shove it in the garbage where it fucking belongs.
If I have to be fronted with one more comment like “This is ONLY x amount of calories; feel less guilty and have this disgusting alternative”, I’m going to take it off the shelf and stamp on it approximately twenty times. Because that’s what I fucking feel like doing.
If some ridiculous company ran by people who clearly have the intelligence of a fucking fish, tell me that I have to be a certain size to fit their idea of beautiful, hot, sexy, whatever; I’m going to cut the label out of every fucking clothing item in their store because it doesn’t matter what size you are.
The next time someone compliments my body based on their like/dislike/preference, it isn’t a compliment because YOU like it. I like myself for myself, if you want to actually compliment me, then state it based on something that matters; like the fact I’ve got a sparkling muthafucking personality, not whether or not I’m the size you find visually pleasing.
The next time some uneducated, naive person tries to tell me what is right for MY body; whether that be how much exercise I should be doing, how many calories I should be consuming, or whether or not I can allow myself to eat such a thing; I’m going to honestly tell them to shove their idealistic standards up their fucking backsides and grab a reality check. If you really had any concern for my well being, you would focus on my happiness; not some ‘statistics’ (informal consent, look it up.)
If someone decides it’s within their right to tell me I have to cover up my acne excessively in order to look pretty enough, I’m going to smash ten bottles of foundation and tell them to fuck off.
The next time someone tells me my ass is ‘too big’, my lips are ‘nice and voluptuous’, or my ‘hips stick out a tad’; I’m going to tell them that my body is no concern of theirs, because their opinion is no fucking concern of mine.
(This could go on forever..)
Thin privilege is this series of advertisements encouraging fat people to give up on hobbies and instead use all their spare time striving to be thin.
So basically, suppress your interests and loves that make up a fulfilling life so you can look more appropriate to the kind of people that hate you. Because when you’re fat, your passions must be sacrificed the the demands of fat stigmatization.
Fuck this that elephant is dope.
omfgggg fucking fuck whoever art directed this bullshit. -hcue
tw: weight-related internalized body shaming
In high school I was very thin. I couldn’t gain weight as much as I tried. I had my family up my butt about it, scolding me every time I did not finish a meal or if I was not hungry. I had friends and other peers always commenting on it as well. Either they aspired to be as thin as me and asked me my “secrets” or they accused me of having an eating disorder even if I was sitting right beside them eating a whole cheeseburger. I was not healthy, this I knew, but there was nothing I could do about it. I tried my best to gain weight, but failed. The words people said about me were hurtful. I hated hearing accusation of how I maintained my weight. I hated hearing healthy people wishing to look like me. It was painful.
I lived with that through most of high school. By the end of high school I grew into my body a little more so I looked more “normal”. I was still underweight, but I did not look it as much. So in college I did not receive the same remarks I did in high school and it was fantastic. Yes, people noted my weight. But it seemed normal, non accusatory. And that’s when I started to gain weight. I didn’t quite gain the freshman fifteen in a year, but I did that in more in two years. And finally, I am comfortable in my body. I have a butt! Haha. My current boyfriend who dated me at the beginning of this transformation has noticed the change and said I look a lot healthier (and to him sexier) and that makes me very happy.
I guess what I’m trying to say here is I wish I could have been comfortable with my body before now. If people had commented on my weight less in high school maybe I would have finally stressed less about it and gained weight earlier.
I know most discrimination toward body image is directed toward curvier women, but it does go both ways and I was a victim of that.
I think everyone has the right to be comfortable in their own skin no matter how much they weigh. And people should stop commenting on us unless they have something nice to say. We’re all beautiful. Everyone has a story. Don’t assume you know everything about a person because of their weight.
It’s horrendous to me that someone could perceive someone to “look a lot healthier” simply based on their weight.
WEIGHT DOES NOT DICTATE HEALTH OR WORTH.
YOU CAN NOT MEASURE HEALTH THROUGH VISUALS ALONE.
GOD FUCKING DAMNIT.
(Sorry, frustrations, whatnot…)
It is a total shame that commenters and outside perspectives can have SUCH an impact on our true sense of self. I wish it wasn’t so, that the people we’re surrounded with will inevitably have an impact on how we feel about ourselves…
But we can fight against it in our own little ways.
Thin bodies are not systematically oppressed in the same way fat bodies are. There is not an entire institution against shaming and dehumanizing thin bodies as there is against fat bodies. But that doesn’t make stories like yours less valid in the slightest.
<3 Thank you for sharing.