How To Actually Enjoy Food Shopping Again
1) Give Yourself Permission — An important first step in letting go of the diet mentality is to really give yourself permission to eat, buy and make what you want. Buy foods or ingredients for things that you really like. Some of these things may be “fattening” or “caloric” or whatever but giving yourself full permission to eat them will actually begin to even out your eating. Take a little time to ask yourself what you really want and you may find that you’re craving more of a variety of things than you had previously realized. Plus, food shopping will be much, much easier.
2) Do A Little Planning — Getting back into the swing with food shopping can sometimes take a little planning, so make a list of what of you want to get. Start easy — if you haven’t been cooking much lately, try to pick simple, easy to make foods. Include some prepared foods too. And consider starting small, planning for just a few days, or thinking practically about which days you might want to make something at home versus which days you’re going to go out or get takeout or whatever.
3) Have Snappy Answers Available For Judgmental People (Including Your Internal Judge) — Food shopping while fat is often a special kind of torture that thinner folks cannot relate to. It’s easy to feel as if you’re under surveillance and constantly scrutinized for the contents of your cart. Plus, even if no one is looking at you or actively judging you, you have your inner judge telling you that all of your food choices are wrong and bad.
So it’s important to remind yourself that you are a human and therefore need and deserve to eat. No one has the right to tell you what you should be eating nor the right to judge your choices. It’s important to connect with that feeling when you’re food shopping
But I also think, contrary to Gray, that there are different kinds of girls and that is totally okay. Because no kind of girl is superior to another kind of girl if they are all good people. Some folks ARE appearance-obsessed shopaholics.
And you know what? I don’t think there’s anything actually wrong with that. I think it’s a problem when that is the ONLY idea of “girl.” I think it’s a problem when other people are made to feel inferior if that isn’t their bag. But I don’t think being image-conscious and into shopping as a hobby are in and of themselves bad things.
They aren’t even particularly shallow things, because the crafting and control of your personal image is a huge deal. I want more people to be conscious of that, to think about it and have some really important conversations about it.