This is the Quigley Scale… this makes radscums’ heads explode. As you can see, the boundary between “penis” and “vagina” is not as clean cut as radscums (and for that matter, cissexist society as a whole) makes it out to be. Radscums, when should you start using the mens’ room? Number 3? Number 4? I should point out that the Quigley scale applies only to androgen insensitivity syndrome. There are plenty of other intersex conditions out there that can produce totally different genital arrangments.
[Image description: a diagram scale showing various kinds of genitals. Number 1 shows what most people would refer to as a penis and scrotum. Number 2 shows a penis with a slit running on the underside, and a scrotum. Number 3 shows a small penis/large clitoris and a scrotum/labia majora (looks a bit closer to a scrotum). Number 4 shows a smaller penis/clitoris with a scrotum/labia majora (looks a bit closer to labia majora). Number 5 shows a vulva with a somewhat large clitoris. Numbers 6 and 7 show what most people would call a vulva with a “normal” sized clitoris.]
Going beyond the Western gender binary - unlearning our backward cultural conditioning
In Western colonial society (which dominates many aspects of the globalized, capitalist world today) we operate under the presumption that there are only two genders, male and female. But gender is a social construction. One’s options for what gender they identify with are shaped by the culture they are born into. Biological factors are most-often the primary driving forces that choose among the available socially-constructed gender categories.
Cultures around the world have different ways of talking about, thinking about, and identifying gender. It’s often a challenge for (particularly cis-sexual) Westerns to think about other ways gender can be socially constructed. Westerns have the false equivalency of gender and sex drilled into their eternal psyche from the time they are very young, and re-enforced through examples popular culture. There is no biological reality to gender. Many Westerners have the bizarre belief that one’s XY-sex-determination should also inform one’s gender identity, a socially constructed role in society.
In some cultures, there is no distinction made between gender and sexual orientation and the same can be said for sexual orientation - our culture socially-constructs the options and our biology helps us identify which socially-constructed option feels most ‘right’ and best resonates with us.
I’ve attached some photos to offer some examples of non-colonial, non-Western construction of gender. They’ve all been uploaded onto our Facebook page photostream in case you’d like to ‘like’ or ‘share’ them there. There are literally hundreds of ‘third-gender’ identifying peoples around the world. The eight I’ve chosen are mostly examples I remember from some of my anthropology courses but if you google ‘third genders’ you can find many lists and examples.
Who cares? Why it matters.
The most obvious reason to care about the way our culture has constructed gender and sexual orientation is to deepen one’s capacity for solidarity with people who identify as transgender, transsexual, and others whose gender or sexual identity exists outside of binary Western culture.
But there are other reasons as well. Western culture’s binary nature often creates non-sensical, problematic binary identity constructions that are inherently problematic. For example, I believe that Western masculinity (dominance, aggression, lack of communication, lack of emotional expression, etc) is inherently problematic. I believe that to be the reason why most acts of large-scale-violence and terror are committed by men (see: 100% of the mass school shootings in the United States), and I believe it fosters a degree of internal misery within people who heavily adopt these particular ‘masculine’ traits.
In the age of information, and the age of global connectivity, there is no longer any reason (particularly for young people) to feel isolated or restricted to Western definitions of gender, sexual orientation and identity in general. I think the social ramifications of a generation where more and more people begin to identify outside of the gender binary would be tremendous, and I think we should all consider how we can unlearn our cultural conditioning to embrace other, perhaps less exploitative and dominating identities.
Background information on the identities depicted in the above images:
Hijras
Hijras are male-body-born, feminine-gender-identifying people who live in South Asia (mostly in India & Nepal). Many Hijras live in well-defined, organized, all-Hijra communities, led by a guru.Although many Hijras identify as Muslim, many practice a form of syncretism that draws on multiple religions; seeing themselves to be neither men nor women, Hijras practice rituals for both men and women.
Hijras belong to a special caste. They are usually devotees of the mother goddess Bahuchara Mata, Lord Shiva, or both.
Nandi female husbands
Among the Nandi in Western Kenya, one social identity option for women is to become a female husband, and thus a man in society’s eyes. Female husbands are expected to become men and take on all of the social and cultural responsibilities of a man, including finding a wife to marry and passing on property to the next generation through marriage. Female husbands may have lived their lives as women and may even be married to a man, but once she becomes a female-husband, she is expected to be a man. Women married to female-husbands may have sex with single men uninterested in commitment in order to become pregnant, but the female-husband (who is often an older woman, often a widow) will father the child of said pregnancy and treat the child like her own.Two-spirited people
Two-Spirit is an umbrella term sometimes used for what was once commonly known as ‘berdaches’, Indigenous North Americans who fulfill one of many mixed gender roles found traditionally among many Native Americans and Canadian First Nations communities. The term usually indicates a person whose body simultaneously manifests both a masculine and a feminine spirit. Male and female two-spirits have been “documented in over 130 tribes, in every region of North America.”Travesti
In South America (with a large presence in Brazil), a travesti is a person who was assigned male at birth who has a feminine gender identity and is primarily sexually attracted to masculine men. Therefore, sometimes the distinction between gender identity and sexual orientation is not made. Travestis have been described as a third gender, but not all see themselves this way.Travestis often will begin taking female hormones and injecting silicone to enlargen their backsides as boys and continue the process into womanhood.The work of cultural Anthropologist Don Kulick (a gay male by Western definitions) in Brazil demonstrated that gender construction in Brazil is binary (like Western gender construction), but unlike Western gender construction, instead of having a male-female binary, there is a male-notmale.
In this particular construction of gender:
- Males include: men who have sex with women, men who have sex with Travestis but are never on the receiving end of anal sex, men who have sex with men but are never on the receiving end of anal sex.
- Not-males include: women, men who receive anal sex from ‘male’ gay men or from Travestis.
Fa’afafine
Fa’afafine are the gender liminal, or third-gendered people of Samoa. A recognized and integral part of traditional Samoan culture, fa’afafine, born biologically male, embody both male and female gender traits. Their gendered behavior typically ranges from extravagantly feminine to mundanely masculineWaria
Waria is a traditional third general role found in modern Indonesia. Additionally, the Bugis culture of Sulawesi (one of the four larger Sunda Islands of Indonesia) has been described as having three sexes (male, female and intersex) as well as five genders with distinct social roles.Six Genders of old Israel
In the old Kingdom of Israel (1020–931 BCE) there were six officially recognized genders:
- Zachar: male
- Nekeveh: female
- Androgynos: both male and female
- Tumtum: gender neutral/without definite gender
- Aylonit: female-to-male transgender people
- Saris: male-to-female transgender people (often inaccurately translated as “eunuch”)
Kathoey (often called ‘ladyboys’)
Australian scholar of sexual politics in Thailand Peter Jackson’s work indicates that the term “kathoey” was used in pre-modern times to refer to intersexual people, and that the usage changed in the middle of the twentieth century to cover cross-dressing males, to create what is now a gender identity unique to Thailand. Thailand also has three identities related to female-bodied people: Tom, Dee, and heterosexual woman.-Robert
For my fatty friends:
I’m fine with fat acceptance as long as it doesn’t affect your health.
The instant your weight starts being an issue to your overall well-being, I will get in your face and tell you to work on it. I will support you however I can, but you have to KNOW that even if you’re “fine” with being obese and how it’ll probably take ten, twenty years off your life, THAT I AM NOT.
You are my FRIEND, and friends do not let other friends KILL THEMSELVES.
You are offering to kill your friends.
No, that’s not correct. Calling it an offer assumes they have some say in accepting it or not.
You are planning to kill your friends.
You know what affects health? Yo-yo dieting. The poor self-esteem and stress that comes from fat shaming and from the pressure to achieve the unattainable goal of permanent weight loss to a level that society will agree (despite our complete and uniform lack of vision-based health-gauging superpowers) makes one “healthy”. And all dieting is yo-yo dieting. Fewer than 5 percent of the population will experience meaningful weight loss from any method, be it exercise or weight loss… even surgical “solutions” tend to end up rebounding once the body throttles its metabolism way out of whack to compensate for the starvation conditions being forcibly imposed on it.
What you’re relying on? Fairy tales. Shared cultural narratives of what is healthy and what is not. Science shows again and again that the connection between weight and health is not as strong or as simple as we want to believe it is, and that the real long-term dangers come from our obsession with weight loss, our insistence on looking at the size and shape of a person to the point of ignoring any meaningful statistics. A thin person with high blood pressure isn’t healthier than a fat person with good blood pressure, but we still say “Well at least the thin person’s doing something right, they don’t have to worry.” and “Well yeah but the fat person can’t be healthy.”
And thin people die because of this. And fat people wreck their health trying to get to a level where we’ll be accepted as healthy.
But you know what? Forget health. Forget the fact that you are willing to kill your own friends because you don’t understand the difference between “healthy” and “socially acceptable”. You’re still a terrible friend for making your friends’ health your business in the first place.
Think I’m wrong?
Let me ask you this. If I had a magic genie who could take away something you love from your life but you’ll live for a little bit longer… maybe weeks, maybe months, maybe years… who gets to decide if I use that genie for you? Is it me? Is it your best friend? Or is it you? Don’t you think it should be you? I mean, it’s not like this extra time will occur in the prime of your life. It’s not like you can add a week to your once-in-a-lifetime dream vacation to Hawaii and a week to your honeymoon and a week to that one amazing summer you had in high school… no, all the extra time is going to happen at the end of your life. How sure would you have to be that you’d enjoy it, that you’d need it, that you’d benefit from that extra time that it would be worth a loss of joy/increase of misery today? I tell you, I don’t know about you, but I’d have to be pretty sure that those weeks or months or even years would be outstanding to give up something from my life now to see them.
I mean, we’re not Death Eaters, right? We’re adult human beings and we understand (or should understand) that we’re going to die one day no matter what. If somebody decides that they’re happier eating two whole cakes and washing it down with a giant Jack Daniels-and-coke milkshake, what kind of friend would you be for re-ordering their priorities for them? What kind of friend would say “No, don’t be happy. Be miserable and be miserable for longer!”
What kind of person?
What kind of person thinks that dying maybe a little bit sooner in an unforeseeable future is such a tragedy that it’s her job to police her friends’ happiness to make sure it doesn’t happen?
And this is not even getting into the existence of people for whom “health” has never even been an option on the table. I guess they just don’t merit your friendship to begin with?
I. Love. This. So. Much.
A blog devoted to those of you with large labia who may be seeking a little reassurance or want to share your thoughts and feelings about your own lips.
Thanks to @naamahdarling for bringing this loveliness to my attention!
(nsfw obviously, so watch yoself)
New research reported in the European Heart Journal on September 4, 2012, reports that a large subset of obese people is in fact healthy. The research was reviewed at the Eureka Alert web site the same day.
The findings hinge on one fact. A person can be obese but be metabolically healthy. Metabolically healthy people do not have the same risk of developing diabetes, heart disease, cancer, and other chronic diseases that obese people that are not metabolically healthy do.
Just follow this step-by-step guide to Conversing with Marginalised People™ and in no time at all you will have a fool-proof method of derailing every challenging conversation you may get into, thus reaping the full benefits of every privilege that you have.
How have I never seen this before!
TW: Fat shaming trolling bullshit, but awesome informative response!
(oh, another troll submission! The hills are aliiiive with the sound of trolls…. As usual, my responses are in bold)
Fat privilege is blaming your weight on genetics.
Hate is ignoring whatever facts you need to so you can keep on stewing and spewing and basking in unearned social…
We all have times in our lives when we just have too much stuff going on. There are always deadlines, exams, due dates and just too many priorities to juggle. And when everything is going wrong, the world is screaming for your attention and you just don’t have time – the last thing you need to hear is to “just take a day off”. So here are 55 gentle ways you can take care of yourself when you’re pressed for time and attention. Enjoy!
Say no to anything that is not important to you
Laundry, phone calls with your mom,demanding girlfriends – this is not the time to be nice and “responsible”. Give yourself the permission to focus on what’s important. Getting the unessential responsibilites off your schedule will not only create som extra time and space, it will also lighten the burden you’re feeling to keep up with it.
Ask for help
There’s nothing wrong with asking for help, and you’ll quickly learn that most people around you actually love to be asked! It makes them feel useful and important. What usually helps the most is to get help to do the normal things; cooking, shopping and regular every-day tasks. However, don’t underestimate how important the people in your life can be when it comes to feedback, motivation and supporting your self-confidence regarding the important work you’re doing.
Get enough sleep
An oldie, but a goodie. This old advice is not only essential when it comes to self-care, it is also absolutely essential when it comes to being able to do your best. Particularly important when it comes to exam periods and work stress, sleep will help you achieve. It’s easy to think that a few extra hours of work will do you more good, but it won’t. Sleep will.
Potential TW for mental health/depression on links.
This was originally posted on another blog (safespacenetwork.tumblr.com) but it wasn’t rebloggable, so I’m posting it here.
http://transgenderexplored.com/mental.htm
http://www.fenwayhealth.org/site/PageServer?pagename=FCHC_srv_services_trans
Fate has intervened for everyone who sent a message asking for a Rebloggable version!
A new blog promoting sexuality, uniqueness, positive body image, and mental wellness.
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Seventeen Mag No Photoshop Rule
Real Model Heads on Fake Bodies
Here’s a Pinterest related account
This is the video that stands out to me the most from the Dove Real Beauty Campaign.
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Thanks a bunch for these great resources!!! Embellished the title a bit :)
- Haley Cue
1. Self Acceptance =/= Body Acceptance
Self Acceptance and Body Acceptance, while often related, are actually separate concepts.Accepting one’s self and having a core sense of self-worth does not necessarily equate to loving your body in its current state. Nor does a lack of self esteem necessarily equate to lack of body acceptance (although I would hazard a guess that if your self esteem is low, you are going to be more inclined to dislike your body). A sense of self worth can be built on who you are; your place in your community, family, work; what you like doing and do well; your hobbies and accomplishments. While appearance may be a factor in self worth, in most people I believe it would be only one of the components of their sense of self.
To put it another way, Self Acceptance relates to the inner whereas Body Acceptance relates to the outer
2. Fat Acceptance vs Size Acceptance – Allies with a difference
Philosophically, Size Acceptance and Fat Acceptance are very similar. SA and FA both advocate an end to size & weight related discrimination. Many FA and SA activists follow the principles of HAES (Health At Every Size). Many have learned to love their body at its set point, regardless of whether that is fat or thin or in between.The point of difference to my mind is that Fat Acceptance explicitly states that FAT is – and must be – part of that discussion; there can be no upper weight or size limit to our quest for rights and acceptance. There can be no point at which we nudge each other, compare bodies and say, “Well, I’m fat, but she is something else again. That really can’t be healthy, can it?”
3. Dieting and Body Acceptance are mutually exclusive
If you are dieting, then you believe your body as it currently stands is unacceptable. Full stop (or period, for the Yanks). It really doesn’t matter whether you are trying to lose weight for cosmetic or ‘health reasons’ – dieting, by definition, is a rejection of the current state of your body and an attempt to change that. The ultimate goal is a smaller or ‘healthier’ you, and regardless of whether you call your diet a ‘lifestyle change’ or ‘eating sensibly’, that is not body acceptance.4. Therefore Fat Acceptance and Dieting are mutually exclusive
If you believe your own body is so unacceptable that you must starve and shrink it, then by extension, you also must believe that bodies of people who are as large or larger than you are unacceptable. Do I really need to state why that is not Fat Positive?5. Diet all you like, just don’t talk about it in Fat Acceptance spaces
Some dieters appear to believe that the refusal of Fat Acceptance advocates to diet (or to discuss how to diet or the ‘benefits of weightloss’) somehow impinges on the right of the dieter to bodily autonomy. For my own part, I really don’t care if you diet. But – much as I refuse to listen to Jehovah’s Witnesses who knock on my door – I refuse to take part in endless discussions about calories and what ‘worked’ for you. I will not participate in the celebration of the loss of part of your body. I have made a conscious choice not to diet, despite there being endless cultural pressure to do. Fat Acceptance spaces are one place where that cultural pressure is eased (not removed, eased) for a while. I do not require your validation for my choice, nor do I require you to stop dieting. I just ask that you SHUT UP ABOUT IT already. Thank you.
an infographic always worth reblogging