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thepeoplesrecord:

Going beyond the Western gender binary - unlearning our backward cultural conditioning 

In Western colonial society (which dominates many aspects of the globalized, capitalist world today) we operate under the presumption that there are only two genders, male and female. But gender is a social construction. One’s options for what gender they identify with are shaped by the culture they are born into. Biological factors are most-often the primary driving forces that choose among the available socially-constructed gender categories.

Cultures around the world have different ways of talking about, thinking about, and identifying gender. It’s often a challenge for (particularly cis-sexual) Westerns to think about other ways gender can be socially constructed. Westerns have the false equivalency of gender and sex drilled into their eternal psyche from the time they are very young, and re-enforced through examples popular culture. There is no biological reality to gender. Many Westerners have the bizarre belief that one’s XY-sex-determination should also inform one’s gender identity, a socially constructed role in society.

In some cultures, there is no distinction made between gender and sexual orientation and the same can be said for sexual orientation - our culture socially-constructs the options and our biology helps us identify which socially-constructed option feels most ‘right’ and best resonates with us.

I’ve attached some photos to offer some examples of non-colonial, non-Western construction of gender. They’ve all been uploaded onto our Facebook page photostream in case you’d like to ‘like’ or ‘share’ them there. There are literally hundreds of ‘third-gender’ identifying peoples around the world. The eight I’ve chosen are mostly examples I remember from some of my anthropology courses but if you google ‘third genders’ you can find many lists and examples.

Who cares? Why it matters.

The most obvious reason to care about the way our culture has constructed gender and sexual orientation is to deepen one’s capacity for solidarity with people who identify as transgender, transsexual, and others whose gender or sexual identity exists outside of binary Western culture.

But there are other reasons as well. Western culture’s binary nature often creates non-sensical, problematic binary identity constructions that are inherently problematic. For example, I believe that Western masculinity (dominance, aggression, lack of communication, lack of emotional expression, etc) is inherently problematic. I believe that to be the reason why most acts of large-scale-violence and terror are committed by men (see: 100% of the mass school shootings in the United States), and I believe it fosters a degree of internal misery within people who heavily adopt these particular ‘masculine’ traits.

In the age of information, and the age of global connectivity, there is no longer any reason (particularly for young people) to feel isolated or restricted to Western definitions of gender, sexual orientation and identity in general. I think the social ramifications of a generation where more and more people begin to identify outside of the gender binary would be tremendous, and I think we should all consider how we can unlearn our cultural conditioning to embrace other, perhaps less exploitative and dominating identities.

Background information on the identities depicted in the above images:

Hijras
Hijras are male-body-born, feminine-gender-identifying people who live in South Asia (mostly in India & Nepal). Many Hijras live in well-defined, organized, all-Hijra communities, led by a guru.

Although many Hijras identify as Muslim, many practice a form of syncretism that draws on multiple religions; seeing themselves to be neither men nor women, Hijras practice rituals for both men and women.

Hijras belong to a special caste. They are usually devotees of the mother goddess Bahuchara Mata, Lord Shiva, or both.

Nandi female husbands
Among the Nandi in Western Kenya, one social identity option for women is to become a female husband, and thus a man in society’s eyes. Female husbands are expected to become men and take on all of the social and cultural responsibilities of a man, including finding a wife to marry and passing on property to the next generation through marriage. Female husbands may have lived their lives as women and may even be married to a man, but once she becomes a female-husband, she is expected to be a man. Women married to female-husbands may have sex with single men uninterested in commitment in order to become pregnant, but the female-husband (who is often an older woman, often a widow) will father the child of said pregnancy and treat the child like her own.

Two-spirited people
Two-Spirit is an umbrella term sometimes used for what was once commonly known as ‘berdaches’, Indigenous North Americans who fulfill one of many mixed gender roles found traditionally among many Native Americans and Canadian First Nations communities. The term usually indicates a person whose body simultaneously manifests both a masculine and a feminine spirit. Male and female two-spirits have been “documented in over 130 tribes, in every region of North America.”

Travesti
In South America (with a large presence in Brazil), a travesti is a person who was assigned male at birth who has a feminine gender identity and is primarily sexually attracted to masculine men. Therefore, sometimes the distinction between gender identity and sexual orientation is not made. Travestis have been described as a third gender, but not all see themselves this way.Travestis often will begin taking female hormones and injecting silicone to enlargen their backsides as boys and continue the process into womanhood.

The work of cultural Anthropologist Don Kulick (a gay male by Western definitions) in Brazil demonstrated that gender construction in Brazil is binary (like Western gender construction), but unlike Western gender construction, instead of having a male-female binary, there is a male-notmale.

In this particular construction of gender:

  • Males include: men who have sex with women, men who have sex with Travestis but are never on the receiving end of anal sex, men who have sex with men but are never on the receiving end of anal sex.
  • Not-males include: women, men who receive anal sex from ‘male’ gay men or from Travestis.

Fa’afafine
Fa’afafine are the gender liminal, or third-gendered people of Samoa. A recognized and integral part of traditional Samoan culture, fa’afafine, born biologically male, embody both male and female gender traits. Their gendered behavior typically ranges from extravagantly feminine to mundanely masculine

Waria
Waria is a traditional third general role found in modern Indonesia. Additionally, the Bugis culture of Sulawesi (one of the four larger Sunda Islands of Indonesia) has been described as having three sexes (male, female and intersex) as well as five genders with distinct social roles.

Six Genders of old Israel
In the old Kingdom of Israel (1020–931 BCE) there were six officially recognized genders:

  • Zachar: male
  • Nekeveh: female
  • Androgynos: both male and female
  • Tumtum: gender neutral/without definite gender
  • Aylonit: female-to-male transgender people
  • Saris: male-to-female transgender people (often inaccurately translated as “eunuch”)

Kathoey (often called ‘ladyboys’)
Australian scholar of sexual politics in Thailand Peter Jackson’s work indicates that the term “kathoey” was used in pre-modern times to refer to intersexual people, and that the usage changed in the middle of the twentieth century to cover cross-dressing males, to create what is now a gender identity unique to Thailand. Thailand also has three identities related to female-bodied people: Tom, Dee, and heterosexual woman.

-Robert

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ashleyketchum:

In case anyone has forgotten what a fox I am.

thumbcramps:

Wow. I’m sure you’ve all seen this girl’s fantastic tardis dress floating around here the last week or so. She hand painted the inside and everything, and she just looks plain great. But of course, I see it posted on facebook, and the slew of comments begin.

I don’t think it’s a mystery as to why I, as a bigger girl, spend the week before a convention crying because I’m so nervous about what people are going to say about me just because I want to dress up and have fun like everyone else. And there is something really, really fucking wrong with that.

All I could think of when I saw the first bit was, “Oh my god, what a brilliant and creative idea, she looks perfect.”

Then the comments.

What the fucking shit.

This is why I greatly admire fat babes in cosplay. I am not a part of the “scene” but admire from afar, their strength and ability to tell misogynistic fat-phobes to FUCK OFF by simply existing.

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tw: weight-related internalized body shaming

In high school I was very thin. I couldn’t gain weight as much as I tried. I had my family up my butt about it, scolding me every time I did not finish a meal or if I was not hungry. I had friends and other peers always commenting on it as well. Either they aspired to be as thin as me and asked me my “secrets” or they accused me of having an eating disorder even if I was sitting right beside them eating a whole cheeseburger. I was not healthy, this I knew, but there was nothing I could do about it. I tried my best to gain weight, but failed. The words people said about me were hurtful. I hated hearing accusation of how I maintained my weight. I hated hearing healthy people wishing to look like me. It was painful.

I lived with that through most of high school. By the end of high school I grew into my body a little more so I looked more “normal”. I was still underweight, but I did not look it as much. So in college I did not receive the same remarks I did in high school and it was fantastic. Yes, people noted my weight. But it seemed normal, non accusatory. And that’s when I started to gain weight. I didn’t quite gain the freshman fifteen in a year, but I did that in more in two years. And finally, I am comfortable in my body. I have a butt! Haha. My current boyfriend who dated me at the beginning of this transformation has noticed the change and said I look a lot healthier (and to him sexier) and that makes me very happy.

I guess what I’m trying to say here is I wish I could have been comfortable with my body before now. If people had commented on my weight less in high school maybe I would have finally stressed less about it and gained weight earlier.

I know most discrimination toward body image is directed toward curvier women, but it does go both ways and I was a victim of that.

I think everyone has the right to be comfortable in their own skin no matter how much they weigh. And people should stop commenting on us unless they have something nice to say. We’re all beautiful. Everyone has a story. Don’t assume you know everything about a person because of their weight.

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It’s horrendous to me that someone could perceive someone to “look a lot healthier” simply based on their weight.

WEIGHT DOES NOT DICTATE HEALTH OR WORTH.

YOU CAN NOT MEASURE HEALTH THROUGH VISUALS ALONE.

GOD FUCKING DAMNIT.

(Sorry, frustrations, whatnot…)

It is a total shame that commenters and outside perspectives can have SUCH an impact on our true sense of self. I wish it wasn’t so, that the people we’re surrounded with will inevitably have an impact on how we feel about ourselves…

But we can fight against it in our own little ways.

Thin bodies are not systematically oppressed in the same way fat bodies are. There is not an entire institution against shaming and dehumanizing thin bodies as there is against fat bodies. But that doesn’t make stories like yours less valid in the slightest.

<3 Thank you for sharing.

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living-in-retro-world:

The Cleavage Sisters

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g0ggles:

I think this is the most concise summary of privilege I’ve seen yet

valeriansays:

bigfatcherrybomb:

menstrualbloodhound:

I spent yesterday with a friend making body print experiments for an upcoming show. I’m super happy with the photos!

this is fucking amazing

where are those prints?

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owls-love-tea:

Iviva Olenick, Social fabric (2010)

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iridessence:

Can we please stop pretending like talking about our experiences as oppressed people on tumblr isn’t doing shit?

Because i’ve had many people say how what I reblog has opened their eyes.

Aside from getting shit off your chest, isn’t that the point of it all, or at least an important portion? Like for real.

Please stop acting like “just talking” about this stuff isn’t actually doing something about it,because it fucking is.

If I go reblog some shit involving privileges on my blog, okay no it’s not going to change the entire world, but what the fuck does actually change the entire world? I’m happy knowing somebody read my post and came to me saying “i never saw it that way wow”

Seriously. Yeah, we’re a bunch of people on the internet. But guess who the fuck uses the internet? Real people who get offline and that shit sticks with them.

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