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SO MUCH CONFLICTING EXCITEMENT due to lack of funds, yet so much lust. WHY MUST FASHIONS COST MONIES, I want it all on my body right meow.
colorblock striped dress: torrid
black cardigan: asos curve
In society today, there exist a pervasive myth that some people are born with style— when in reality, it’s learned! Unfortunately, lots of fat women grew up thinking that style is something for thin women only, and never spent time developing their style muscles. This is a zine for them!
Featuring 36 pages of content, this zine showcases the styles of four fictional women, and as well as some guidelines for developing your own personal style. Check out a preview spread here!
Because I’m currently only selling it as a PDF, I have set the price at $5. If you can’t afford to pay that, or don’t have a way of paying online, please shoot me an e-mail at aefleck@gmail.com, and I will send you a copy. The money goes towards allowing me to create more things like this, so please pay if you can! And hey— if you’ve got the cash and are into this idea, perhaps pay a few extra dollars? Every cent helps a fat working lady illustrator!
It’s done!! DAMN GIRL THAT STYLE IS FAT! is a zine, written and illustrated and design by me, and YOU CAN BUY IT FOR $5 HERE!
NOTE: When this zine becomes available in print, IF YOU BOUGHT IT ONLINE FIRST, $5 will be deducted from the print price! There’s not a date set yet for print copies, as I have no idea how I’m going to print it yet (it’s so long!!), but I do plan on doing a print run.
YOU GUISE THIS BRIDAL SHOP WAS BRILLIANT
Anyone in the Detroit area looking for wedding dresses in fat sizes, definitely check out Bombshell Bridal in St. Clair Shores. The sisters who run the shop are so lovely and I felt like a glamazon queen all afternoon.
I don’t know how I’ll ever decide! This shit is hard work.
This is Me.
What with everything that’s happened to me this year… my relationship with my body has had to stand up to probably the most traumatic things a woman can go through… Pregnancy and Miscarriage… twice in one year… I battled though it… I’ve come out the other side and I haven’t gained a pound… I have days where I should make better choices, I have times where I should move more… but I am still healing right now… I will get back on my feet again… but that doesn’t imply I’m not happy with what I see in the mirror or what I grab in my hands.
I’ve always had a hard time loving the skin that I’m in… but when I found Tumblr almost 2 years ago it did something to me that no diet ever could do… it made me see my body differently. It made me love my curves, my rolls, lumps, my bumps, and my dimpled fatness.
I never thought that would be even possible…All it took was seeing images of other fat people looking happy and confident… funny how you never see that in regular media… fatness is equated with unhappiness, with ugliness in pretty much ever single way possible. The only fat people in mainstream channels are portrayed as people we should pity or laugh at, or failing that both. It’s no wonder the vast majority of us genuinely equate being thin with being happy or attractive… which in reality is ludacrios because I rarely come across a confident and happy thin person either also because of the pressure they are under to look a certain way! Ultimately no one wins.
The truth is, there are millions of fat people in this world… and believe it or not… some of them are actually believers of this radical notion that… IT IS OK TO BE FAT… Some of us still eat right most of the time like someone of a “normal weight” Some of us Exercise just the same amount as someone of a “normal weight” Some of us are as physically healthy as someone of a “normal weight“… A crazy notion to some, but it really shouldn’t be… because really it just comes down to the fact that EVERYBODY is different! So stop putting those that do suffer with health problems because they are overweight/underweight in with the masses of healthy all spectrum sized folk!
Whether you are finding Tumblrs’ Body Positive community for the first time… coming back to it for a second, or a staunch advocate of all of it’s ideas of what is beautiful, ie; Every body has the right to be and feel beautiful…. I want to say this…
Step back and look at your body, stare into your eyes, and tell yourself…
You got this!
Stand up and walk tall because nobody else can do that quite the way you can… and that my friend is a gift.
This is my backside. I rarely like the sight of my backside, but here it is for everyone to enjoy now. I am 23 years old, and it has taken about 22 of those years to become this confident and happy with myself. Feel free to check out my blog: http://grande-amour.tumblr.com/
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LOVE
for Kyle Hood’s The People Project.
I need to stop being so stunned by people who utterly refuse to accept others are happy with their bodies, because they themselves fundamentally are not and may have never ever experienced that feeling.
It can be a stunning sound of hurt and confusion, that I myself am thrown off and second guess my ‘comfort level’. I think some of us (TeamTumblrBabeForce) have made that fundamental decision to turn our backs on that quiet violence of ‘hating’ our bodies, for a view of accepting that we wont feel ‘Beyonce’ everyday, but will sit back and know it alone in peace.
“Fatty self-love: if I don’t personally know it, understand it, or experience it - it can’t possibly exist.”
But your shitty forever h&m hollister 21&fitch purposely oversized t-shirt sweater bullshit should still be the same price as everything else usually is?
Right.
Its actually closer to being a matter of supply and demand. Specialty sizes are harder to sell and more expensive to produce in small production runs.
It sucks that only the lowest common denominator gets the most benefit from mass production, but you spewing reverse discrimination is not helpful.
Fat people aren’t a “specialty size.” The average US woman wears a size 14, which is where plus sizes start. So your logic is actually super fucking flawed.
Also, are you really gonna sit there and say that me asking a question is DISCRIMINATION but the fact that only one 1 of 100 stores in the mall having something that can fit me is ~*~*~*supply and demand~*~*~* and is totally not discrimination?
Guuuuuuurl. Take a seat. I’ve already got one pulled out for you.
This is my first time wearing orange and I love it!
Orange top size Aus 22, skirt from Asos Curve size 26.
More details here: http://ccurves.blogspot.com.au/2012/10/orange.html
I see my underarm fur as a delightful accessory to this outfit.
Asked lanwut
It is truly upsetting and something that can influence a person in a lot of ways.
The first time I realized my fatness was in a dressing room, trying to squeeze into a bathing suit that I felt should have fit me. I’d gained weight and the clothing sizes kept crawling upwards. The exclusion of my body size from stores like Abercrombie and Express and whatever other brands were big when I was growing up was frustrating. Every time I went to the mall was a nightmare of playing “find the largest size in a sea full of clothes meant for thin bodies that aren’t mine”.
Thank the lord for online shopping - I never go to the goddamn mall anymore.
Asked d-rownings
F21+ is pretty good for cheapy things, yes - although they are quite hit-or-miss with me and their pieces are often poorly made (but that applies to all their clothing). I have to be very careful with mine, I usually let them air dry rather than putting them through the damage of the dryer.
Complaints about the fashion industry not making space for fat bodies are still valid, though. While there are a lot of great fatshion resources, sometimes trends fall behind for plus sizes or are modified in a way that makes them straight up unappealing. Kath Read did a post recently about the lack of color in Target plus lines that is worth a look.
There are strides being made in the right direction, but fashion as a whole still remains as a commanding part of our society that is hellbent on perpetuating thin ideals.
[TW- mental illness, self harm, bullying, fat shaming]
It took a lot for me to get to this point. It took a look of name calling. It took a lot of mental abuse. It took almost all my hope. I’ve cried. I’ve been depressed. I’ve self harmed. I’ve given up so many times on myself but I’m pretty sure I’VE HAD FUCKING ENOUGH.
THIS ONE IS FOR ALL THE DIRTY LOOKS
This one is for every time I’ve felt ashamed of my body BECAUSE OF A COMPLETE STRANGER.
This one is for the emotional problems I deal with every day, especially in intimate relationships, because of years of bullying.
This one is for every time I’ve thought “I don’t deserve to eat”
This one is for every fucking asshole that has discriminated against me because of my weight.
This one is for every time I’ve heard “you’d be so pretty if…”
THIS ONE IS FOR MY FELLOW FATTIES.
This one is for Brandon, the bastard from high school, that made me cry every day on my walk home.
This is for every time I wished I was someone else.
This is for every girl who is ashamed of her body
Every girl that is emotionally tortured and badgered by society, teachers, co-workers, random strangers, and most of the time family and friends for her weight.
FUCK YOU.
F U C K Y O U.
YOU DO NOT FUCKING DEFINE ME. I AM NOT SOMETHING AT YOUR DISPENSE. I AM NOT A FUCKING FETISH. MY BODY IS NONE OF YOUR F U C K I N G BUSINESS AND YOU BEST FUCKING BELIEVE I WILL EAT YOU FOR A FUCKING SNACK BEFORE YOU EVER MAKE ME FEEL WORTHLESS AGAIN.
i can taste your delicious rage