I’m a UK size 14 and finally accepting how good I look. I’m starting to love my chunky legs and now know where to show to find items to suit me!
I’m a fashion blogger, owl lover, geek and motorsports fan.
Kinda bored of these thin girls submitting to fat-pos sites.
Maybe this girl is possibly a bit of an in-betweenie, but I’m actually kind of annoyed to see someone this thin claiming fat.
yeah uh, yeah.
When I first discovered fat acceptance, I was a size 14 - quite similar to this girl.
“Overweight” most of my life, I’d adapted really horrible eating habits to keep myself at a size 14 and tried in vain to become smaller. I had a lot of hate and contempt for myself and my young body. I would never have called myself fat except as a self-depricating insult or way of enticing my peers to deny my fatness or make me feel better about it.
Fat acceptance and fat-posi spaces took me in and taught me, without judgement. I was lucky enough to never be denied access to these spaces as an “inbetweenie” - If I had, I would not be where I am right now. I would still be stuck in my own cycle of self hate, disordered eating habits and fucked ways of thinking, afraid of fat, in denial of it.
Instead, as I struggled with my inescapable weight gain, fat positive spaces helped me cope and understand. I began to call myself fat because I was, for once, proud of the fat on my body. I owned the fact that I was “overweight” - or “fat” - and was suddenly unashamed to say the word. Unafraid of becoming as fat as my body wanted to become, for the sake of my own mental health and wellness.
At a current size 16/18, I realize the privileges that come with living on the “thinner” side of fat every single day. I have an abundance of fat on my body and am categorically “obese” by BMI standards, but I have never been denied healthcare, or had to buy a second seat or ask for a belt extender on an airplane, or had any trouble with mobility or access to proper clothing options, or a myriad of the other bullshit things my deathfat babes have to endure.
My fat experiences are valid and they are my own but I can see how they are different and I can realize why those differences exist. I am sure this girl can see that, too. If she doesn’t, maybe we can give her an opportunity to learn rather than deny her inclusion.
I realize that there are many interpretations of what it means to be “fat positive”. This way of thinking, that fat positivity has a weight limit, does not seem helpful to me - although I do understand being frustrated with seeing the same type of bodies over and over again, to some extent.
For instance, I’ve stopped following a number of fat-posi blogs that showcase nothing but proportional hourglass white-girl curves ore neglect to include bodies over a size 20. There is nothing wrong with these types of bodies, but a lack of variety and understanding of intersectionality in fat-posi spaces is, to me, the biggest issue at hand - not whether or not the contributing users are fat enough to “belong”.
So let’s not turn anyone away, please. Especially those teetering on the cusp, on the verge of trying to accept and understand their bodies for the first time. Let’s instead focus on how we can add or improve.
I suppose if you feel quite strongly about it, that is your choice to enforce in your own spaces, and I can certainly respect anyone looking to try to create better fat-pos environments for those fat bodies with the least privileges. I just feel I can do that while also being completely all inclusive, and I personally aim to continue welcoming any/all bodies in this space.
Trigger Warning: Emotional Abuse, Eating Disorder
My body issues began around the age of 7 when I was diagnosed with some kind of hormonal disorder. Memory is not my mom’s strong suit (neither is record-keeping), so to this day I don’t know specifically what it was. All I know is that I suddenly…
This is such a beautiful and honest story of one person’s journey that I relate to in so many ways. So touching.