1. Part hair from ear to ear across the top, pin both sides up(should have a mohawk appearance).
2. Part back in 3 sections, pull the middle section up and secure with pins (or combs).
3. Starting from the nape, grab a section of hair and pull to the opposite side and secure. (If your hair is long enough, bobby pins won’t be needed.
4. Grab section the section at the nape on the top of the opposite and cross over previous section.
5 Continue criss crossing until you reach the top
6. Grab a section (on right or left) of hair in the front roll forward, tuck inwards and under, and secure with pin (loosely).
7. Take the front section on the opposite side, roll forward, and tuck into the opening of the previous roll. All others rolls should be towards the front expect…
8. The last rolls will be going backwards to cover the left over hair in the back.
9. Slightly lift rolls to add volume and that’s a wrap!
This is my third post to Our Skin, and I’m thinking of it as a kind of closure on my self-consciousness about my body hair. I committed to uploading a photo of my re-grown arm hair in the previous post, and I planned to keep my word. I often still wish it wasn’t so dark (and the photo really doesn’t show that well), but at least it’s pretty soft! Since before March, I have completely stopped attempting to shave/pluck my navel area, butt, and arms and hands! When I think of the maintenance I’m still doing for the rest of my body hair, a lot of it seems unnecessary, but right now I’m okay with the balance—I’m content with the amount of hair I have and the amount of hair I put in a bit of effort to remove. Even when the stuff I normally remove grows out a bit (like when I stop shaving my legs for two weeks), I don’t really care much anymore! Visible stubble around my ankles peeking out from my jeans? Oh, well.
Another intention of this post is to address something that I struggled with until recently, and I’ve seen submissions here touching on the subject: Excess body hair and relationships/sex. So many people (and myself included, until recently) wonder how anyone could see them as attractive with their extra hair. Well, I found someone who thinks I’m beautiful and sexy, hair and all. In no way am I saying this to boast, or to say something silly like, “Well I got validation from a man so everything’s peachy now.” I’m sharing this to give you all hope that there are people out there who just don’t care—in the best way! My current partner doesn’t ignore my body hair—sometimes he seems curious about it, in a way. But always, he is accepting. He touches my treasure trail all the time. Strokes my hairy arms. Examines my hairy knuckles. And still thinks I’m attractive. At first I was mortified whenever he would touch my butt, but it’s his favorite part of my body! I never thought I would find this kind of person, and I sincerely hope the fact that I did gives the rest of you struggling with low self-esteem or body-image issues hope for yourselves!
Again, I have to express my appreciation for this blog for allowing me to share my journey, and helping so many others like myself. I wish the best for all of those involved here!
Those who truly love you should not care one bit about the amount of hair on your body.
You are wonderful.
TREAT YO’ SELF.
Today has been the best self care day. Slept in, spent time with my sister, showered, shaved (I don’t mind the fuzz but gotta change it up), rubbed some lovely whipped lavender shea butter all over my bod (thanks to newwavefeminism’s store, self love beauty), got some delicious sushi, then treated myself to a deep conditioning treatment and hair cut at the salon. I haven’t had my hair cut in probably over 6 months.
I also wore a pencil skirt without shorts underneath it for the first time in a long time which was pretty much the most liberating thing ever, especially in this heat!
Do something good for yourself this weekend, babes! I highly recommend it. <3
The hair treatment felt lovely, but did nothing for my dermatitis.
Tomorrow I’m trying a new apple cider vinegar rinse recipe I found.
Feels good to be taking care of me. I’m trying very hard not to let my anxieties take over. Making myself feel nice seems to be a healthy method of distraction.