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Let’s get confrontational.
Bodies are not straight angles.
Everyone has curves.
Let’s stop using “curvy” to replace “fat” - Please.
FAT IS FAT, PEOPLE.
DON’T FEAR THE FAT.
I’m always down to get confrontational.
It’s just… not that simple.
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I get that. I try not to disrespect others on whatever they identify themselves as, because generally I don’t care. But a lot of people haven’t been told that being fat isn’t a shameful thing. At least I’ve come to find that. I have friends that aren’t a part of any online community that would grant them access to these opinions. I share with them why it’s okay to identify as fat. I don’t care if they choose not to because it feels wrong, shameful, etc. But no, I don’t ignore it either. I confront people about my own body regularly. ”You’re not fat, you’re curvy” is not a compliment to me. It personally insults my intelligence. I’m fat. I’m really fat. I know that no one should shove their opinions down someone else’s throat, but it’s also important to have these discussions, or the stigma will always be there.
Yes, thank you!
Let’s get confrontational.
Bodies are not straight angles.
Everyone has curves.
Let’s stop using “curvy” to replace “fat” - Please.
FAT IS FAT, PEOPLE.
DON’T FEAR THE FAT.
I’m always down to get confrontational.
It’s just… not that simple.
Don’t get me wrong! I absolutely love the word fat. It is an important word and language is a powerful tool. Totally critical to politics and academia AND day-to-day living. I do not find euphemisms useful, personally, so I use the word fat. I encourage other people to use the word fat if they feel that describes their body in a way that is accurate and empowering. But it’s super important to remember the word fat doesn’t exist in a vacuum. The way the word is treated culturally is fucked up. No question. The actual meaning of the word has been so conflated with negative imagery that it can cause a lot of pain.
yes. Using fat in a NOT fucked up way is critical to neutralizing that pain… Using fat as your default when discussing bodies if you are comfortable with the word is important and powerful…. But Ignoring the fact that the word “fat” is super triggering for people ignores a very important part of accepting one’s body. Prescribing identities to others is also a super shitty thing to do. Thrusting labels upon people doesn’t help anyone go through the process of reclaiming a word. It’s not really about the word anyway, it’s about breaking down the schema, the associations, the thought processes that make that word hurt. Let’s get confrontational about the paradigms that create the pain around the word fat, instead of stigmatizing identities. Support people and their healing instead of being the label police.
I realize it’s not that simple. I don’t see how anything I’ve said makes me a member of the label police. I’m not prescribing identities to others or demanding anything, all I’ve done is propose that we question the way the word is used.
Everything you’ve said is completely valid and I appreciate your perspective, I just don’t understand why I’m under attack for simply making a proposal that perhaps the word “fat” is nothing to be afraid of.
Let’s get confrontational.
Bodies are not straight angles.
Everyone has curves.
Let’s stop using “curvy” to replace “fat” - Please.
FAT IS FAT, PEOPLE.
DON’T FEAR THE FAT.
not all “curvy” people are “fat”… and there are some people out there who couldn’t be described as “curvy” at all… I just think it’s a delicious and sexy word, and I’ll keep fucking using it, mmmmkay?
That’s cool. I think “fat” is delicious and sexy and I’ma keep using it.
Let’s get confrontational.
Bodies are not straight angles.
Everyone has curves.
Let’s stop using “curvy” to replace “fat” - Please.
FAT IS FAT, PEOPLE.
DON’T FEAR THE FAT.