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I see information every day that shows that our obsession over body fat is a costly, crippling threat to health and well-being. I routinely tally the costs — medical, financial and psychological- - of the un-winnable War on Obesity and the commercial juggernaut it supports (Low-cal snacks! Diet pills! Weight-loss centers where customers always come back!). And I conduct research and write peer-reviewed articles supporting the HAES paradigm with facts, replacing knee-jerk everyone knows statements with what is truly known about the meaning of body weight.
The evidence demonstrates that fat isn’t the bogeyman it’s made out to be, and that a focus on health habits, rather than weight, accomplishes the very goals collective thinness is supposed to achieve (if it were possible in the first place). Compared to control groups of people on weight loss programs, people who accept themselves and their bodies as they are tend to exercise more and eat better. They do better medically, on blood pressure, cholesterol, insulin sensitivity and similar measures, and feel happier in the long run. They adopt longer-lasting exercise habits. And guess which group weighs less, two years out? Neither! In the HAES study I conducted, both groups ended up with weights where they started, albeit with the dieters having endured another wearying and health-damaging deprivation-loss-regain cycle.
In other words, as long as we’re focused on changing our bodies — which the data shows isn’t going to happen for most people, anyway — we are missing the real benefits that come from caring for our bodies.
My body remains fat no matter what I do. I eat no more or less than most people. I eat as healthy as most people, sometimes healthier – although I don’t believe there’s any real virtue in that. What you eat and what you weigh does not and should never contribute to defining your worth as a human being.
Pursuing weight loss as a means for me to find happiness and health IS NOT REALISTIC. No matter what, MY BODY REMAINS FAT. Believe me, I have tried. So why shouldn’t I accept it and be happy with it rather than beat my head against a wall?
My best friend is fat. She has been making changes to her diet and lifestyle, even seeking a personal trainer. She has been doing this for months and has not lost a significant amount of weight.
She can run for miles without wanting to die, she’s the fittest and healthiest and feels the best she’s ever felt – but because she doesn’t see the results on the scale, she feels as if all her efforts are in vain. She’s doing everything she’s “supposed” to, to fit this thin ideal that her body is not naturally capable of. She can’t simply enjoy the fact she is doing something good for herself and her body that makes her feel good – instead, she feels BAD.
Tell me where the logic is in that, seriously, because I’m pretty sure it doesn’t exist. Because this fat shaming society would rather promote thinness as happiness than realize that happiness and acceptance and self-love can come at any size. It HAS to. Otherwise, what are we poor fatties to do except accept defeat, sit on our fat arses and shove cakes down our girthy gullets?
Screw that. I will embrace my body and radiate happiness as the fucking majestic fat woman I am. My body may never satisfy you, and you may think what you please about my health and happiness based on my appearance, but you don’t know my body as well as I do. I move it, nurture it, study it, love it, and take care of it the best I know how. Nobody gets to dictate any of that for me.