I need to write a post about the reactions I’ve been getting from the latest message I shot out into the interwebs:
"Weight does not dictate your health or your worth."
I chose my words carefully with this one. I was anxious to see how others would react to the “health” aspect of the message, to see if it would come across as a challenge or a threat that “must be corrected” - And I must say, while there has been a ton of people supporting the design and the message behind it, I find it most fascinating that some people were compelled to reblog the image just to simply shoot it down.
This piece was spontaneously put together, but it came to me naturally. It’s the thing that was the hardest for me to understand for the longest time.
Weight does not dictate your health.
Think about it carefully.
Yes, sometimes excess weight is a symptom of unhealthy living and/or illnesses, but it is not the cause. You certainly can not determine a person’s health by simply looking at them.
Your eyes are not my doctor. Your eyes can not see through my exterior to examine my everyday habits and lifestyle choices.
Your eyes can not take enough into account to correctly asses another person’s health, no matter how much or little they weigh.
This type of response has been quite typical:
"I can understand the ‘worth’ part, but weight not dictating your heath is the most absurd thing I’ve ever heard. Someone being morbidly obese isn’t any less worthy, but they’re extremely unhealthy. Being fat is just not healthy, and those are the facts of it. If you want to be healthy, you work for it. You exercise, eat well, and take care of your body. You don’t sit on your couch, watch tv, eat and gain weight. That’s unhealthy.”
What’s unhealthy is assuming that a “morbidly obese” person is extremely unhealthy because all “morbidly obese” people are couch potatoes who can’t stop themselves from shoving an endless supply of food into their mouths.
When in reality, that person is 100% capable of being healthy - but you wouldn’t know that by simply LOOKING at them.
Everyone has an underlying story. No one is as they appear.
Some women appear perfectly healthy and happy, maintain a “normal” weight and pass society’s VISUAL standards for what a healthy woman is SUPPOSED to look like. But you can’t tell simply by looking at her that she may binge and purge on a regular basis, starve herself or involve herself in other acts that are equally as unhealthy.
It is also entirely likely that she may be totally healthy.
Regardless, in no situation is it okay to assume one’s health based on appearance. By doing so are encouraging the kind of ignorance that fuels negative body image and eating disorders.
It’s not hard to see once you start questioning the way you respond.
Also, it helps to remember that your body is no one else’s business - So best not to make other bodies your business.
That is all.