This is Thin Privilege: Thin privilege is not being objectified and overly sexualized at a…
Thin privilege is not being objectified and overly sexualized at a very young age because of where your weight is distributed.
Thin privilege is not having men assume you’re older, or sexually mature, or promiscuous in any sense just because you have fat accumulated on your chest, on your…
THIS. SO MUCH THIS.
This is bullshit. You’re saying that thin women don’t get catcalled or general unwanted attention from men because they’re thin? That’s ridiculous.
Fuck this post.
^ Yes yes, TOTAL BULLSHIT. I can tell you now, it’s not only the unwanted attention and catcalls that you get when you’re thin, you also get abuse for being that way. Having “EAT A FUCKING CHEESEBURGER” or “ANOREXIC BITCH” shouted at you isn’t a fucking privilege. Stop thinking you know everything, you’re not immune to being insulted or hit on because of your body type/weight. Fucking hell.
So, right, that’s not what the post was saying at all. If you want to be willfully ignorant, that’s your business, and if you want to compare getting told to eat a cheeseburger to the pervasive and constant discrimination in dating, employment, parenting, traveling, obtaining respectful and proper healthcare, and just putting threads on their fucking body that fat people have, that’s also your business.
To clarify, the post wasn’t making light of sexism, which hits all women. It was a post that conveyed a person’s experience as being objectified for where their weight was distributed, with thin in this post meaning without those curves. And if you want to suggest that women who get curves in current culturally acceptable places at a very young age don’t potentially go through a fuckload of trauma for that, that’s on your conscience.
To say that’s in any way comparable to ‘go eat a sandwich,’ btw, just shows how privileged you really are.
I have to repeat that whilst certain aspects of thin privilege are problematic for me, slim people always lead with it. They either keep telling us or stand silently by whilst we are told how bad fatness is and how all our troubles will be over if we can just choose slimness.
So what’s all the whingeing about when they hear what this means from the other end?
The time to complain is when they are being set up and objectified as perfect people with NO PROBLEMS.
If there are no whines then, there’s nothing to complain about now.
Having developed at a very early age with an affinity for local music, I used to go out to bars all the time starting at age 13 to see my favorite bands play. It was always super fucking surreal to find grown men chatting me up/staring at my chest/offering to buy me drinks - although bringing my age to their attention always proved amusing.
But it was also frightening. You never expect to me made the focus of anyone’s attention at that age, or at least I didn’t. I’d been taught that the extra fat on my body meant that I was less attractive to men and I wasn’t used to being focused on. Whenever it happened I felt like I was meant to ~appreciate~ it, even when it creeped me the fuck out. It was like I was meant to be flattered but something in the pit of my stomach told me that it was wrong. Other men were sexualizing my body from a very young age, before I even understood how to comprehend it. No wonder I was confused.
People of all sizes are capable of experiencing this, but when you develop with a curvy body that is easily objectified and makes you appear older than you really are, it’s like being thrown into the deep end without being given the means to stay afloat. You’re just gasping for air, trying to find peace within yourself and your rapidly changing body, whilst being told “you don’t look like you’re in high school” or “I would never guess that you’re underage” on pretty much a daily basis while eyes make a bee-line to your rapidly ballooning chest and widening hips.
On the other end of the spectrum, thin bodies who don’t develop until a later date (or at all) experience feelings of inadequacy, not being “woman enough” or feeling less desirable.
I don’t have a way to summarize or bring about a final point to my statement, I just wanted to contribute my perspective.