Fat people are told to “get some self-respect” - because being fat is, of course, so obviously, objectively horrible that if you allow yourself to be fat, you must not respect yourself. It doesn’t even occur to a sizeist world that giving in to others’ demands that you lose weight is much less a sign of self-respect than, if you are happy with the body that you have, refusing to change it to make others happy.
On a similar note… “looking after yourself”.
I had been visiting a GP on a regular basis, trying to find answers for a health condition that had reduced my quality of life to the point where I felt alienated, depressed, and scared to leave my home unless I had to (work, important errands, etc).
At one of these visits, I learned that my doctor had ordered the wrong test for my condition, instead he ordered a test for type 1 diabetes (yes, i got the number right). Based on this test, he felt it was appropriate to diagnose me as pre-type 2 diabetic (what?), and went on a tirade about how I needed to start “taking care” of my body, and i needed to “look after myself”.
Needless to say, I was never tested for type 2 diabetes, and he was making assumptions based on the results of a test for type 1 diabetes. I’m not sure how that happened, but it did, and I left the GP’s office and broke down crying on my way home, beating myself up for an hour until it all clicked into place and I realised that I wasn’t at fault, I had just been the victim of a doctor who didn’t know what he was doing or talking about.