Thin privilege is not having your mother tell you that she will take you out when you “look better”. Thin privilege is not having your mother tell you that if you aren’t thin that you will die (I have PCOS but other than that I am mostly healthy). Thin privilege is not having a guilt trip every time you reach for a cookie instead of fruit.
Yesterday, i told my mother about the incident in which my father called me and went on and on about how beautiful, gorgeous, stunning, breathtaking my two sisters were (both are smaller than me. I’m the fat sister). Instead of momma saying “you ARE beautiful, don’t listen to that man, he’s crazy”, she said “once you start exercising, he’ll be saying that about you too”
My mother means well, I know she does, and she doesn’t know that she’s hurting my feelings. What if I’m fat forever (which is very probable), will she be saying this for the rest of my life? I love my momma, we’re ALMOST best friends, she knows pretty much everything (except about my “hoe week” i had when i was 20…she’ll never know), but she doesn’t know how she can make me feel so low just for being fat.
This breaks my heart.