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Q: A friend of mine went to get fitted for her wedding dress recently. She's about a UK size 10, but was still told by the shop assistant "of course you'll lose weight before the wedding."

Asked runawayjoincircus

TW: fat shaming

Gawwwd don’t even get me started, I’ve been watching Say Yes to the Dress whenever I need some background noise or junk entertainment and the amount of weight loss related body shaming on that show is astounding, I end up skipping some episodes altogether.

But the thing is, it’s always the family inflicting shame on the bride or the bride inflicting shame on herself. Most of the time the consultants seem to prefer pairing a dress with a bride while knowing she isn’t “planning to lose weight” because often they either don’t end up losing it or if they do, it’s inconvenient because they can’t plan for something like that.

Last night I was watching an episode that I probably should have turned off, but it pissed me off more than it triggered me in any way. It’s actually on youtube.

(Beware of horrid content.)

The bride’s mother (or aunt?) and cousin are continually shaming her, over and over again! No wonder she’s trying on dresses for a body size that she doesn’t have yet. 

GUHHHH.

The other plus-size bride story in that episode was lovely enough to make up for it, though.

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