TW: self harm
Please try not to compare yourself to other people. Your journey is your own, your situation is unique, as is your body, your health, your condition…everything. Comparing yourself to other people will only set you up for the perfect opportunity to continue hating on yourself.
I used to fantasize about slicing away the fat on my body. I really did, I hated it that completely. I would grab all my fat, squeeze it into a bulge, and imagine slicing it right off. That was a long time ago, before I found fat acceptance.
I am not perfectly proportioned, but honestly - fuck proportions. Hourglass shapes are portrayed as an ideal, even among fat women. Just know and trust when I say that there is NO ideal. All body shapes are perfect.
I mean, I’ve got a flat backside with a “crooked” bum crack that my family has enjoyed tormenting me about my entire life. I’ve got heavy, droopy breasts and belly fat that spills over the top of my jeans. I’ve got a waist that comes in too high, “shortening” my torso. I’ve got wide hips, thick stocky legs and small feet. I’ve got broader shoulders and thicker arms than most men.
These are things that are unique to me, that have been hard to accept, but as I’ve progressed through my body acceptance journey, I have grown to own and love them.
I can’t tell you what to do. I can only tell you to stop being hard on yourself and open yourself up to learning new things and thinking in new ways about yourself and other bodies.
Explore the tags here - you can find a handy tag cloud at the top of the page. Browse links and resources. Step forward and look back when necessary, but know that your journey is your own and things will happen as they are meant to in time.