the girls who are too thin to be fat, and too fat to be thin? Where is our safe place? We get judged by both sides as either being too thin to be able to relate to fat girls or too fat to be considered as pretty as thin girls within western mainstream culture.
It’s starting not to matter though. I’m still buying two big ass slices of pizza for lunch.
There should never be any form of judgement coming from anyone in fat/body positive communities (I mean that’s supposed to be the thing we’re battling) and it makes me sad when I see people expressing these feelings of feeling alienated. I used to be an inbetweenie and am still on the low end of the fat scale so I can relate to what you’re saying in a lot of ways, but I’ve also come to understand a lot of things.
There is privilege that comes with being thin or an “inbetweenie” rather than full on fat or “deathfat” but that doesn’t mean anyone is judging you and invalidating your experiences when pointing out that privilege. Sometimes anger, frustration or tone can be misinterpreted as judgement and maybe that is what you’re responding to, but it’s nothing to be taken personally.
Just to add - in my space, everyone is welcome. Everyone will always be welcome. As a fat woman and activist, my space will always center around fighting fat phobia and oppression, but body shaming occurs across all spectrums, and I would never think of silencing anyone.