The other reason why I think “Real women have curves” isn’t entirely a great slogan for the fat acceptance crowd is that we’ve culturally constructed curves to mean a body type not every fat bodied individual possesses. While I think my thick upper arms and my belly rolls count as curves, that’s certainly not the image mainstream society conjures at the word “curves.” As it is normatively contructed, “curves” equals a round booty and big tits. And not every fat girl has these. I know lots of fat girls who have flat chests and nearly non-existent asses. And I’ve heard them express their pain at being excluded from communities which celebrate fatness and “curves” because they don’t have the type of curves most people are talking about when they say, “Real girls have curves.”
So when I don’t feel comfortable using “Real women have curves” it’s not 100% about respecting the thin folks. It’s also about respecting the lived experiences of fat women who don’t self-identify with the word “curvy.” Let’s never forget there’s more than one fat body type, and each one presents its own struggles, and each fat body should be embraced in fat acceptance.