- “You look like you lost weight” being considered a compliment (plus it’s a shitty compliment — it makes me wonder what you thought of me before I lost weight)
- Losing weight automatically being considered a healthy choice
- People policing others’ bodies, health, etc.
- Weight loss commercials
- Fat people being seen as inherently unhealthy
- Fat people being seen as inherently unattractive
- People assuming at no one finds fat beautiful, sexy, etc.
- Being reminded that I’m fat (you think I don’t know that?)
- …and that being fat is considered inherently a bad thing.
My high school theatre director recently lost a LOT of weight and when I saw her for the first time I was like “Oh. You’re so skinny,” and it did come out like an “eh” thing, and she was like “Thanks!”, clearly overjoyed. I mean, she looks fine. It was just a sudden difference that I wasn’t prepared for. Anyway. This. All of this.
Whenever I describe myself as fat, all I hear in response is “You’re SO not fat.”
I am, in fact, fat. I own the fact that body has an abundance of fat. I am on the “slimmer” side of fat in that I still have the privilege of going to a straight-sized store and sometimes coming away with something that fits me, but I am a size 16 and my tummy can not be controlled. FAT.
The other day I said “Bella is getting so fat!” (referring to my cat) and all I heard in response was “You leave her alone, she’s not fat, she’s fluffy!” - as if I had deeply insulted her character. She’s a goddamn cat and she’s filling out, gaining a healthy amount of weight and maturing as cats often do, and she has a fat little tummy.
“Fat” is a descriptive word, not an insult.