I think it’s really all about personal preference and being willing to respect that some people are really not okay with the word. I say “cunt” all the time in the company of other people who enjoy using the word, but I don’t mind cutting back on using it when I know it could possibly offend someone.
It’s like how I call myself “fat” and love using the word fat in every single way, but not everyone wants to be defined as “fat” or are as comfortable with using the word as I am.
It’s interesting to discuss and think about - being aware of how other people interpret words and language. The connotations that are tied to words. I’m always willing to open up a dialogue and decipher why certain words mean certain things to certain people in certain contexts. But if someone isn’t up to it and don’t feel comfortable with it, I’m not about to push the issue.