I’d argue that self-improvement efforts of all kinds are most likely to succeed when you approach them from a place of self-love and positivity, both of which are more easily cultivated when you’re focused on looking and feeling your most awesome at whatever stage you currently occupy.
Using clothing as a carrot — “I will allow myself to wear a dress when I’ve lost X pounds,” and so forth — only reinforces negativity about yourself and your body, and negativity is a poor source of energy to make positive changes.
An aside: I just heard someone tell me the other day that he doesn’t want to get a particular tattoo until he looks “good enough” and loses a certain amount of weight first. I basically just couldn’t comprehend that.
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