Usually I’m quite lucky in that the people I surround myself with on a daily basis generally don’t focus on making their diet and body size a matter of everyday conversation.
Still, I find myself regularly engaged in some sort of conversation based around another person’s weight-loss goals, some back-assed way of fishing for compliments or the usual “you’re not fat!” reassurance.
In the past I would indulge said people for fear of falling into some long-winded discussion that endlessly travels in circles until I’m left feeling helpless and actually less confident in loving my own body.
I’ve decided I’m simply not going to allow that to happen any longer.
The problem is, I’m not quite sure how to keep it from happening. Triggering weight-loss and negative body image commentary saturates EVERYTHING.
How do you ignore a thin-privileged friend bombarding your Facebook wall with diet products and weight loss videos on a weekly basis without letting it stand in the way of your friendship? How do you respond to someone you work with everyday who constantly discusses their diet and weight loss goals? How do you tell someone you love who constantly makes “have you lost weight?” comments no matter how many times you assure them you could give two fucks whether you gain or lose 20 pounds?
I’ve tried everything from retorting to such conversation with fat and body-positive commentary (which usually either shuts them up or starts them toward a conversation about fat AND health), not responding at all, or saying just enough to satisfy until the subject is dropped (which usually leaves me feeling worse).
What is your method of action? How can we tackle this shit in everyday conversation?