One of my dearest friends just sent me a photo message. “Here’s a photo of my belly…I wanted you to have it.”
Seriously all it takes to bring an evening from 0 to 10 is for a gorgeous lady love to send me an unexpected photo of her belly.
This is my go-to page when I’m looking for (or trying to remember the links to) references about why the “obesity panic” is dangerous and overreaching.
AHHH thank you thank youuuuu! I always end up pointing to a Kate Harding link, need to organize and step up my sources. You’re fab. <3
Ohhh awesome, congrats on qualifying and good luck!!
Haha all these swim-related posts are just me being nostalgic for high school and trying to think back on what I used to love about sports. I definitely loved most aspects of swimming, I was a swimmer for most of my life, but the meets were torture. I’d launch into panic attacks and/or get sick - much preferred practice and drills. :)
I would suggest you do some research on the “obesity epidemic” being a myth.
Just Googling “obesity epidemic myth” comes up with a wealth of information on the first page of results.
Good luck. :)
“the american generation in schools now is expected to live less long than their parents due to poor health and more than a third are expected to develop diabetes.”
Wrong. This statement is pure fat-shaming propaganda. Just look at the actual life expectancy projections (pdf) published by the US Census. I don’t see any declines in there. In fact, other reputable organizations believe that the US government is actually underestimating expected lifespan!
And here’s the thing about diabetes: It’s complex. People don’t just get diabetes (type 1 or 2, though we’re primarily talking about type 2 here) because they gorge themselves on sugar and other carbohydrates. Type 2 diabetes is primarily genetic. Some people, no matter what they eat or how inactive they are, will never develop it. Others will lead active lives, eat a nutritious, balanced diet, and still develop it at some point in their lives. Diabetes develops as a complex interaction between genetics, environment, and lifestyle, and mitigating all three of these is near impossible. Even the American Diabetes Association knows this.
So just stop with your buts. Fat shaming is bad for people’s health. Far worse, in fact, than being fat.
the thing is it’s not a surprise when someone doesn’t find something like that attractive
when people say stuff like that i feel like going YOU DON’T SAY?!?! REALLY?? YOU DON’T LIKE ANYTHING THAT DEVIATES FROM THE GENDER NORMS THE PATRIARCHY HAS SCRIPTED FOR US? WHAT A SURPRISE.
and people will say “well folks are allowed to have their preferences”
and you know what they’re right. but i want people to understand that their preferences are very much socially influenced. if we lived in a society where hairy women was normal, more people would find it attractive.
i want people to understand that their preferences are hardly their own but rather that of their culture.
and i want people to understand that those preferences put pressure on others to follow that script so everything stays as it is. i want people to understand what they call “their preferences” are likely inherently very oppressive. something as simple as not like body hair on a woman, as though it’s the first time it’s been uttered from a man’s mouth, actually dictates what others are and are not allowed to do without being socially ridiculed.
you think i don’t know people won’t find me gross cause i’m hairy? yeah.
so again, when people basically say “oh i’m just not attracted to any woman that’s hairy or a WOC or fat or whatever it’s just my preference” it’s not like you’re a unique individual. men have the privilege of being able to dictate their preferences as such, they keep those preferences in place, and keep others in check with these “preferences”.
male privilege allows my [white, cisgender, straight] male friend to tell me to put my arms down in public lest people see my hairy pits, or tell me he doesn’t find black girls attractive.
but he’s allowed to have these preferences.
these socially constructed, oppressive, racist, sexist, what-have-you preferences.
just be aware okay?
this is lovely.
be aware, stay informed, know why you think the way you do and open yourself up to the possibility of changing your mind and gaining new perspectives.
- Me (looking at old videos): We look so liiiiittle! We have gained a lots of weight in 5 years.
- My boyfriend: And we're still sexy as fuck and cute as buttons!
TW: weight loss/diet talk
Was just browsing Pinterest and saw that this beautiful fat girl I know repinned someone’s “before and after weightloss” photos with the caption “This girl is really inspirational. Really puts into perspective what dedication does for weight loss.”
Right now I’m sort of struggling with what to do, because now that I’m learning more and more about Health At Every Size I kind of can’t stop seeing how terribly misguided some people are and I want to help them, or at least give them a chance to understand health and weight in a more positive light.
Trying to inform someone that something they knew to be true has proven to be wrong is so daunting, because you know they either won’t believe you or will fight back in some form…And most of the time, I don’t have the energy to want to keep up with it.
I just wish I could just be like “WHABAM!!” and throw something at them that answers all their questions and proves that weight and health are not one in the same.
Maybe this would be a good opportunity to create some sort of kit, like the “all the things you never knew about fat and bodies and weight loss and everything society never tells you” kit…
I’ll work on the name.
You dress cute, quirky, or wear hippie or vintage clothes, doesn’t mean you can’t wear a good bra. A good bra makes all the difference.
While there may have been I time I would say the same thing, maybe try thinking about it from another perspective.
I mean, you’re essentially projecting your own body ideals onto someone else when you make that kind of statement. When it comes down to it, is anything positive going to come out of thinking or speaking out this way?
Mind you, this is coming from someone who once told a naturally rail-thin girl “damn, you need a cheeseburger!” - which is a really shaming thing to say, whether intended to be or not or not.
Are a pair of hanging, natural breasts less attractive than ones supported by a bra? Are bra’s really necessary? For aesthetic or comfort, for sure - but everyone has different ideals when it comes to those things and maybe we should respect that. :3
Assumptioning! That’s a fun word you just made up there.
I’m not going to continue this discussion but I would recommend reading my blog. This one. The one that I created with an intention to challenge society’s perceptions of what is beautiful and normal, where I aim to celebrate bodies of all shapes, sizes, colors and gender identities. Then maybe you’ll understand where I and hundreds of other people who are fed up with body policing and fat hate are coming from. That’s all I ask.
Anonymous asked redefiningbodyimage:
girl purging and a girl binge eating (assuming she ate that entire box of chocolate) = both eating disorders.
Um okay except you’re making an assumption that a fat chick ate an entire box of chocolate in one sitting based on a gif that only shows her consuming one piece. You’re filling in the lines with your own assumptions about fat bodies.
You’re also making an assumption that a woman has an eating disorder based on a hypothetical photo of her purging. You don’t know her, her situation, or why she’s purging - you’re looking at a photo on the fucking internet and making an assumption.
Seriously, am I making this hard to understand or something? I thought it was pretty simple. STOP. ASSUMING.
I’ve eaten an entire box of chocolates in one sitting, but that doesn’t mean I have an eating disorder. I’m sure plenty of people have done the same after a particularly bad day or in response to some sort of craving. It’s human, it’s what we do.
Food is comforting and sometimes we indulge a little more than we “should”, but doing so doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, or even an unhealthy one.
To make a long story short, as a society, we really need to try to stop taking things at face value. Stop making assumptions that you are not qualified to make. It’s harmful and perpetuates body hate. Just fucking stop.
(Made this ask into a text post to preface with a trigger warning.)
And that’s why you’re that size… I’m never usually bitchy about someone’s weight but blatantly not giving a shit that you’re ruining your health, putting pressure on your organs and decreasing your mortality really gets on my tits. I’m not the slimmest nor healthiest of people but at least I accept this and I’m changing my lifestyle to give my body a better chance. Do the same.
Is she negatively affecting your life? No. So stfu and don’t tell her what to do with her own life and her own body.
Just because you think that bigger is wrong doesn’t mean that she has to do what you tell her. Bigger doesn’t automatically mean unhealthier, there are plenty of bigger people who live to be really old and die of natural causes while being healthy their entire life.
If you want to lose weight or think that you need to be small to be healthy then you go right ahead but fuck you for trying to tell someone else to do it too.
Body/health shaming really gets on my tits.
^^ amen. ”I’m changing my lifestyle to give my body a better chance. Do the same. ” Well, pin a rose on your nose. How DARE you try and tell someone what to do with their own body, just because you seem to think you’re better than her because you’re unhappy with your body? ugh. Body shamer alert…
I think all bodies are beautiful, and the girl on this picture is beautiful as well. However, if this would have been a photo of some stick thin girl with her head above the toilet, none of you would say ‘It’s their own choice how they treat their bodies so just let them be.’ And those people are affecting your life negatively just as little as this girl does. All bodies are beautiful, but sometimes you need to draw a line. Of course it’s okay if this girl eats chocolate once in a while, but she should however care about her health, just as much as a skinny girl should and just as much as any girl/woman should.
Okay a gif of a thin woman purging does not equate to a gif of a fat woman eating a piece of fucking chocolate, I really don’t know how you made that comparison but it’s a terribly distructive way of thinking - and prefacing your commentary with “all bodies are beautiful” doesn’t make what you’re saying any less harmful.
The point is not only about letting people do what they like with their own bodies (which in itself is pretty important, because I mean how the fuck is your body anyone else’s business anyway?) - it’s also about not making assumptions about a person’s health based on their looks or what little you know about their eating habits.
By assuming and projecting your bullshit onto other people you are reinforcing the idea that fat bodies are unworthy and unhealthy when they have every possibility to be both.
Instead of weighing yourself, take personal stock in a more direct fashion. Feel your body, including all the soft parts, the ones you like and the ones you don’t. Look at yourself in a large mirror. Naked. Every day. If I were a pessimist I’d call this aversion therapy, but really it’s meant to get you familiar with yourself on a seriously intimate level. Resist the urge to judge; just look.
If it helps, imagine you are exploring an unknown territory on another world, and you must memorize every feature. Mounds and crevices and varied textures are not unpleasant in a landscape; they simply exist. See everything, as often as you can stand it, until you know your body thoroughly. After all, this IS what your body looks like, whether you are seeing it or not.
On a day to day basis, we are quite capable of relying on our own personal knowledge of our bodies to tell us how we’re doing, how we’re feeling, and whether anything has changed — without a scale to help. We don’t need a scale. We don’t need a number. We can know when we have gained or lost weight, when something doesn’t look right, when we feel strange or unwell. In order for this to work, we have to cultivate a bodily knowledge, and I believe the scale is an obstacle to that.
With its numbers and its complex web of possible meaning, the scale stands between our bodies and our fullest conscious awareness of them; it defines us by pounds and not by how we actually feel; it enables us to rely on a number to tell us we are doing things right, instead of empowering us to decide when we feel our best.
The scale contributes to a culture that tells us that if we weigh more than X or less than Y then we cannot be happy with ourselves. And that, frankly, is bullshit.” —
I’ve probably reblogged this before but it bears repeating, especially to myself because although I don’t own a scale I can’t seem to stop myself from stepping on one when I see it.
Random update: Redefining Body Image may be going through some changes lately as I am designing an identity system/logo and redesigning the Tumblr blog as well as getting ready to launch a legit Wordpress blog. Thanks babes!