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So tonight I was at the drive in, during intermission, I checked my phone. One of my friends from another city posted this. 


I was pretty shocked, because she claims that all bodies are great, while being a rather thin person herself. 

Here’s the thing though, aside from the other reasons I will list after this, on a personal level, this is a direct insult, because she’s known me for years, and I have always had (on and off) fake nails, fake lashes, and even once did extensions. So I mean, what the fuck!?


But let’s look at this in a more “grand scheme” sense. I want to know who these “real men” are, and what attributes they have that make them pure and deserving of the affections of others (specifically women in this case). Do they just have to be men? Just show up? Why is it only women who need to prove their “realness”.


Is it maybe because the patriarchy has set it up so that women must attain unrealistic beauty ideals in order to be accepted by society, which include everything from fake nails to breast implants?

Is it because women are socially manipulated into obsessing over their appearance from birth? Think i’m exaggerating? As a child, I was learning from animated DOGS that as a woman, I needed to look good.


All this, to be accepted by a society that spent their entire life telling women they are too ugly without these things, only to turn around and invalidate their personhood because they have internalized these messages and changed their appearance to suit these ideals?

Well that doesn’t seem fair.

society: you’re ugly without make up, you’ll never get a man

girl: *puts on make up*

society: ew, fake, you’ll never get a real man

Do we see the problem here? 


And let’s not pretend like men can’t/don’t some preening and primping in order to be viewed positively by those around them, though not nearly to the same degree, and with the same amount of ridicule. 

The fake hair, fake nails, fake lashes, and cosmetic surgeries exist, as a direct result of the ridiculous beauty standards set out by the patriarchy, and thus, if you want to talk shit about women altering their appearances for these so called “real men”, maybe you should start blaming these real men. 



Let’s pretend for a second that this real man is in the room. 

He’s nice, generous, funny, has a job he loves, loving family, and good friends. Sounds good right?

Ok, now let’s say a woman is in the room, and is the exact same as the man, all these things going for her. Pretty neat.

Now let’s imagine she decided to wear some fake nails and get hair extensions, and has had her lips done. Do all these good traits suddenly disappear? Does she stop being kind? generous? funny? do her family and friends suddenly mean nothing to her? 

nope. The only thing that changed was “your” view of her, based on your own biases, which are tangled up in bullshit internalized misogyny and respectability politics. 


Another 2 important points, are that assuming a woman wants a man is heteronormative as fuck (and frankly I have higher fucking goals than dating some dude, as if that was the be all and end all), and that people can and do alter their appearance for themselves, and not just to gain the approval of others (a shocking concept I know). 

The bottom line is, not only is what someone does to their appearance none of your business, but shaming someone because they didn’t follow your personal views on what is attractive/respectable is just shitty as fuck. Also as woman, we have enough people attempting to dictate what is desirable/appropriate for us in regards to our appearance, we don’t need to be turning on each other in some self righteous attempt to pat ourselves on the back for “not being like other girls”. 



Expose: Shedding Light on Collective Beauty by Laura K Photography

Found these pictures through The Militant Baker’s website. Through each picture you can see women as they actually are and every single one of them is beautiful. 


Photos by Holly Spring of her daughter, who has no hand on her left arm and “struggled early on in life with Hirschsprung’s Disease.” 

Image description: Three ethereal, whimsical, artfully photoshopped photos of a young girl with pale skin and reddish-brown hair. The fact that she has no left hand is visible in the photos. In the first, she’s dressed in a purple dress with purple wings and a purple mask painted around her eyes. In the second, she’s wearing a white dress that becomes a net/sea at the bottom. In the third, she wears a green dress and balances on a piece of wood arising from a misty green pond surround by green trees and bushes.



PUDGE Plus Size Calendar Project 

Here is a link to the fundraiser

Please donate and share!

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On day 25 of @mariedenee’s #tcfstyle challenge!!! Today’s post? Mixed prints… I normally won’t wear two different prints, so this was a bit out of the usual comfort zone for me, but fun! Jacket and skirt by @wetseal #psootd #plussize #psblogger



I feel like those of y’all who aren’t super fat people get body positive and fat positive confused all the GD time. There’s a difference. Most of the body positive crowd isn’t waving their flag for the 350+lb plus people but we have to walk on eggshells for all of you in every single conversation.

This makes me sad to hear, but it’s absolutely true.

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Slurs are not oppressive because they are offensive, they are oppressive  because slurs by nature of being slurs draw upon certain power dynamics  to remind their target of his/her/their vulnerability in a certain relation to power and as an extension of that, to threaten violence and exploitation of that vulnerability.

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i’m crying oh gosh

TUMBLR PROF ANNOUNCEMENT: If you are trans or nonbinary and you are in the same situation as the student above, email your professors before class starts. I understand that it might be uncomfortable, but generally professors are absolutely happy to accommodate you. I know I always will be!

If your professor does not respond positively, contact the Dean or the campus LGBT+ resource center with a copy of the email and show them that you are concerned about gender discrimination in the classroom. 

Also this is a link to the template I used to write this email, and I’ve seen another similar template going around, and this was extremely helpful.

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untitled by Faber Franco on Flickr.


Some more pictures from the beach.

I think this is the first time in my life I’ve been able to look at pictures of myself in a bathing suit and not have a thousand negative feelings about my body. In fact, I love these pictures. I look at them and I’m like ‘damn, I’m really cute and totally in love with myself!’ and I know I’ve been able to gain that confidence and change the way I see my own body, and all fat bodies by participating in the fatshion and fat acceptance community here on tumblr. It’s such a small thing…to take pictures and post them on the internet…yet it’s changed my life. So thanks to all the fatties who also post their pictures, who comment, like, reblog, share experiences and stories. We’re awesome!

Also, shout out to my sister who took pictures of me on the beach like she was the paparazzi.



Uganda gay pride party after anti-homosexual law is overturned

Entebbe (Uganda) (AFP) - Dancing and waving rainbow-coloured flags, Ugandan activists held their first gay pride rally Saturday since the overturning of a tough anti-homosexuality law, which authorities have appealed. ”This event is to bring us together. Everyone was in hiding before because of the anti-homosexuality law,” organiser Sandra Ntebi told AFP. "It is a happy day for all of us, getting together,” Ntebi said, noting that police had granted permission for the invitation-only “Uganda Pride” rally. The overturned law, condemned as “abominable” by rights groups but popular among many Ugandans, called for proven homosexuals to be jailed for life.

The constitutional court threw it out on a technicality on August 1, six months after it took effect, and the government swiftly filed an appeal, while lawmakers have signed a petition for a new vote on the bill.

Homosexuality remains illegal in Uganda, punishable by a jail sentence. But it is no longer illegal to promote homosexuality, and Ugandans are no longer obliged to denounce gays to the authorities

Amid music and laughter, activists gathered at botanical gardens on the shores of Lake Victoria, barely a kilometre (half a mile) from the presidential palace at Entebbe, a key town some 35 kilometres from the capital Kampala. ”Some Ugandans are gay. Get over it,” read one sticker a man had pasted onto his face. - ‘Now I have the courage’ -

Ugandan Deputy Attorney General Fred Ruhinda said Saturday that state lawyers had lodged an appeal against the ruling at the Supreme Court, the country’s highest court.

"We are unsatisfied with the court ruling," Ruhinda told AFP. "The law was not intended to victimise gay people, it was for the common good." In their surprise ruling last week, judges said it had been passed without the necessary quorum of lawmakers in parliament. Rights groups said the law triggered a sharp increase in arrests and assaults on members of the country’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community.

Homophobia is widespread in Uganda, where American-style evangelical Christianity is on the rise. Gay men and women face frequent harassment and threats of violence. On Saturday, however, activists celebrated openly.

"Since I discovered I was gay I feared coming out, but now I have the courage after the law was thrown out," Alex Musoke told AFP, one of more than 100 people at the event. One pair of activists waved a rainbow flag with a slogan appealing for people to “join hands” to end the “genocide” of homosexuals. Some wore masks for fear of being identified — Uganda’s tabloid newspapers have previously printed photographs of prominent activists — while others showed their faces openly and wore colourful fancy dress. But activist Pepe Onziema said he and his colleagues would not rest until they were sure the law was gone for good. ”Uganda is giving a bad example, not only to the region but to the world, by insisting on this law,” he said.

"We are Africans, we want to show an African struggle by civil society."

There was little police presence, and no one came to protest the celebration, even if many in the town said they did not approve."This is unbelievable, I can’t imagine being a gay," said motorbike taxi driver William Kamurasi in disgust."It’s a shame to Uganda. Police must stop these activities of the gays."

- Lawmakers demand new vote -

Critics said President Yoweri Museveni signed the law to win domestic support ahead of a presidential election set for 2016, which will be his 30th year in power. But it lost him friends abroad, with several international donors freezing or redirecting millions of dollars of government aid, saying the country had violated human rights and democratic principles.

US Secretary of State John Kerry likened the law to anti-Semitic legislation in Nazi Germany.

Analysts suggest that Museveni secretly encouraged last week’s court ruling as it provided a way to avoid the appearance of caving in to foreign pressure. But gay rights activists warn the battle is not over.

Lawmakers signed a petition calling for a new vote on the bill, and to bypass parliamentary rules that require it be formally reintroduced from scratch — a process that could take years.


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